Monday, 21 December 2009


"Just wanted to remind you, Prerna, that sometimes success is better measured in smiles received, giggles heard, and hands held, than in dollars earned, deadlines met, and kilos shed."*

I wish i had penned this. I usually don't crib about my lot in life (it may not seem so going by most of my blog entries but really am usually pretty in tune with counting my blessings). But of late have been spending a lot of time cribbing about where life's taken me in the last one year, never mind the fact that I took the plunge into matrimony and the subsequent unemployment willingly. And then a couple of days I received the above in my mail and put a smile on my face. Well I know that I can't go encash giggles and smiles I received but then no bank can credit the fuzzy feeling I got every time I received an impromptu hug from V for being "a good wife" (:P) or a thankful smile from an abject stranger for a seat offered on a bus or kind words upon helping an elderly lady with her coat or a wondrous and proud wow from mom who can't believe her daughter cooked for a party of ten...

I am very fond of saying that it is the small things that pile up to make one big problem, but I guess I could tip the scale in the positive of things and believe that it is a lot of small acts of kindness, good humour and tiny happy moments that can make for one big happy life. Too simplistic, eh. But then I would like to live a simple life. Look for simple answers no matter how complex the problem may seem.

This may not work at all times, but what I have learnt so far is that most times it does.

Even as I say it, I know it is easier said than done. Especially when one can so easily fall prey to negative thoughts and feelings (believe me I know!). So I guess this new year I will gift myself the gift of staying positive and believe that:

"When driving down the road of life, Prerna, rarely do you know how good you have it, until you see it in the rear-view mirror.

Which is not to suggest that you should look back now, but to remind you that where you are today is more awesome and amazing than you probably realize."*

(Another gem wish I had penned.... Since I didn't, thought of sharing it with you.)

*Courtesy: TUT® 's Notes from the Universe(sm)

Friday, 11 December 2009

Ho ho ho!

Dear all,

Yesterday I learnt some very valuable and interesting lessons.

  • Never get married (because sex isn't as great as it is made out to be!)
  • Yet marriage is the best thing that can happen to you.. if you find the right partner.
  • At 70 you may still be looking for love because the one you found at 30 didn't last!
  • But no matter how much it hurt the last time, we still look for it!
  • Love songs still make you happy and dance
  • 12 days of christmas
  • That i still can't sing but for once did not care
  • Singing is one of the best pick me ups
  • You can enjoy your wine at 105 and joke about it! oh yes write a book about your life while you are at it!

How I got around to bagging these nuggets of gold? Let me start at the very beginning.

Yesterday, after debating if it was OK to skip the design class since I had only half an hour to get to it and I was still comfortably ensconced in the duvet and it was brighter in my head, eyes shut than out in the bleak weather. But for once, I overcame my lazy demeanour and in made it to class in record time... I was even the first one to arrive, who would have thunk!

After attending an interesting 3-hour session, I legged it to cover a Christmas Party. The last one I attended was when I was about 7 or 8, and the memory I held was of a shy me dressed in a red frock receiving a small little present from a badly done up Santa at the Officers Mess in Bareilly. Even while resisting the urge to bolt asap at the time I couldn't help feeling disappointed at the size of the gift! Hee hee... gosh! it must have been really small because I can't for the life of me remember what it was, except that it was really small! But what I do remember apart from the diminutiveness of the package is that they served the best fish fingers at the Mess. Sigh... the good old days.

But as usual I digress!

Back to the party organised at Juniper house for the senior members of the community. At an average age of 80, this bunch may look like an unlikely choice to attend a Christmas party with. But never denounce it before trying it out. And I am glad I went. Upon arrival at I was greeted by a small hall filled with wrinkled faces lighting up at the sight of a young couple gyrating to some catchy Bollywood tune! There was more to follow and lots for me to cover.

So there I went clicking away with the trusty D40, capturing some heart warming and at times poignant moments; a giggly twosome here, or a gaggly bunch there, a 78-year-old helping a 90 year old with her coat, an elderly gentleman savouring the mince pie, sipping on a perry, smiling contently like a ten year old. And while I clicked them and shared a cup of tea, a joke, a laugh, a request, sang along with others as Sue (a very very good singer and crowd puller) egged us on during her rendition of some amazing songs, I gained the abovementioned precious jewels of wisdom from my new friends at Juniper house.

And oh, here are a few more:

  • There's still a lot of good around the world
  • You can be surrounded by a bunch of old people and realise how much life can offer, even the bad things are not bad enough to stop you from smiling when you can see the goodness in most.
  • And that there are people like Rads and Liz who care enough to make life more comfortable and happy for a set of people who the world seems to forget on most days.

Just as I enjoyed a happy day, I wish all of these wonderful people I met yesterday have a very merry and happy Christmas and of course as do all who have touched my life in one way or another!

Lots of love,